In a world where relationships are continually evolving, understanding how to make your partner feel loved and appreciated is crucial. This insight comes from my personal journey through three marriages, culminating in a 33-year union with my wife, Carlin.
Over the years, we have learned from our mistakes and successes, and I have discovered what truly makes a man feel cherished and supported. Here are the seven things I’ve learned about how my wife has helped me live more joyfully, and how you can apply them in your relationship.
1. Make Yourself Number One
Carlin, like many women, used to prioritize taking care of others—her husbands, kids, and friends—often neglecting her own needs. However, when she started taking care of herself, it had a profound impact on our relationship.
Self-care is essential because it shows that you value yourself. When a woman prioritizes her well-being, it sets a powerful example and encourages her partner to do the same.
2. It Turns Me On When You Take Care of Yourself
The best thing Carlin ever told me was that she found me sexy when I went for my yearly health check-up. Although these visits can be uncomfortable, knowing that my self-care habits turn her on gives me extra motivation.
Carlin’s admiration for my commitment to health, whether it’s taking daily vitamins or eating nutritious food, makes me want to maintain these habits. Her support transforms routine self-care into an act of mutual appreciation and attraction.
3. Make Me Feel Like I’m Your Hero
One of the greatest feelings is having my wife look at me with admiration and love. Even though Carlin is not a helpless maiden, she finds small ways to make me feel like a hero.
Simple acts, like asking me to open a stubborn jar, make me feel appreciated. She also acknowledges my role as a good father, reinforcing my sense of heroism. Recognizing and celebrating these everyday moments helps build a strong bond.
4. Let Us Know You Love and Appreciate Us
Feeling loved and appreciated is vital for any relationship. Over time, it can be simple to take each other for granted. Carlin makes a conscious effort to show her appreciation through words, small gifts, and meaningful looks.
These gestures, whether big or small, constantly remind me of her love and make me feel valued. Consistent appreciation strengthens our connection and keeps the relationship vibrant.
5. Let Go of Old Beliefs About Being Manly
The concept of manhood is evolving. Traditional beliefs about masculinity, such as not showing weakness or emotions, can be restrictive and harmful. Carlin supports me in letting go of these outdated notions.
She encourages me to be authentic and open, understanding that being a man is about being true to oneself rather than conforming to rigid stereotypes. This acceptance allows me to feel more comfortable and loved for who I am.
6. Manhood is Not a Big Impossible; It’s as Easy as Breathing
Many men feel insecure about their manhood, believing it to be something difficult to achieve. However, manhood is inherent and natural. Carlin helps by acknowledging my manly worries and reminding me that every cell in my body inherently makes me male.
Her appreciation for my identity, rather than adherence to societal expectations, makes me feel loved and secure. This understanding fosters a supportive and accepting environment.
7. Stop Shaming Men
Shame can be devastating for men, undermining their self-worth. Society often uses shame and disrespect to define masculinity, which is harmful and unnecessary. Carlin avoids shaming me and focuses on constructive communication.
She addresses negative behaviors without attacking my character, creating a safe space for growth and understanding. This approach builds a loving and supportive relationship, free from the damaging effects of shame.
8. Encourage His Passions
Supporting a man’s hobbies and interests is a powerful way to show love. Carlin always encourages me to pursue my passions, whether it’s a new project or a lifelong hobby. Her support makes me feel understood and valued.
When a partner shows genuine interest and enthusiasm for what the other loves, it deepens the connection and strengthens the relationship.
9. Be Present and Attentive
Quality time is one of the most meaningful ways to express love. Carlin makes an effort to be present and attentive during our time together. She listens actively, engages in our conversations, and shares moments of joy and laughter.
Being present means giving undivided attention, which fosters intimacy and makes me feel important and cherished.
10. Respect and Trust
Respect and trust are the foundations of any strong relationship. Carlin shows respect by valuing my opinions, supporting my decisions, and trusting me completely.
This mutual respect and trust create a solid foundation for our relationship, where both partners feel safe and valued. When a man feels respected and trusted, it enhances his sense of security and strengthens the bond.
Takeaways
Helping men live more joyful lives is beneficial for everyone. The more women love and support the men in their lives, the more motivated men are to love and support them in return. It’s not always easy, but the results are worth the effort.
By prioritizing self-care, expressing appreciation, letting go of old beliefs, embracing natural manhood, avoiding shame, encouraging passions, being present, and building respect and trust, you can create a loving and supportive relationship. These actions foster a deeper connection, making both partners feel valued, loved, and cherished.
